There’s a lot of talk nowadays about what it means to be a high value man.
Some people take this quite literally, they say that all it takes to be a high value man is to literally have a high monetary value – aka a fat bank account. We all know this isn’t really true. There are tons of millionaires and billionaires out there that have rotten personalities, and don’t contribute much to their community and really aren’t what we’d call “high value”.
Being a high value man is much more than that, it’s multifaceted. We all intrinsically know what being low value is – it’s that guy that has no ambition, wastes all his time on mindless things that don’t progress him further in life, and to top it off, he has a negative attitude about everything.
Everyone has their own definition of what it means to be high value; this is ours.
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The first step in becoming a high value man is to take an accurate and honest inventory. It is hard to do, as many people tend to think of themselves too highly, or even too lowly. However, working on being honest with yourself about what your flaws are and how to fix them is important. Only once you reach this step can you take the next step to become your best self.
For example, if you are overweight, then the logical step to fix it is to understand that you need to exercise and control your eating. However, taking inventory also means being honest about this.
While you don’t want to make excuses for yourself, understanding where you are going to struggle and why your path isn’t going to be the same as everyone else is also an important part of taking inventory.
The first is aesthetics. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to be extremely fit and have the perfect face. Anyone can look decent with time, effort, and confidence. It is important to put effort into your appearance and take care of your body to be a high value man.
This is the key part of being a high value man. Since pretty people generally want pretty partners, you have to have an attractive appearance to catch the attention of the pretty people you want to get to know.
The first step is fitness. You want to create a fitness goal, as well as steps on how to get there. Are you going to eat healthier, or are you maybe considering going to the gym?
You want to create a plan and stick to it. Don’t give yourself excuses for not going to the gym one day, such as a long day of work, or you didn’t get any sleep the night before. While it is alright to take breaks occasionally, if you falter too much, you are never going to reach your fitness goals and take another step towards being a high value man.
One way to improve your appearance is grooming. This is more than just a basic wash. It involves taking care of your appearance. You need regular haircuts as well as taking the time to trim excess body hair occasionally.
Smelling good and trimming nails are also necessary steps. Make sure you always look clean and presentable and take time every week or every couple of weeks to make sure that you are dedicating time to your appearance. It can make a huge difference and you will be surprised how much better you can look without that much extra effort.
Skincare is a part of grooming, but also has its own separate way of taking care of your body. Most people focus on the face and neck, but you can practice skincare on every part of your body.
There are plenty of skincare routines online. You can look around and try a couple of different routines until you find something that works for you.
Another step to being a high value man is to find a style. You want a unique style that fits your personality and body type. Having a good style shows that you care about your appearance, have good taste, and are aware.
When you think about ambitions, you want to focus on a clear path for your future. No matter your age, you should be thinking about what you want to do for a future career, or even what you may want to go to school, or back to school, for.
Personality is one of the hardest things to change, but it is also one of the most important. While your face can capture attention for you initially, it will be hard to hold it if your personality is boring, or if you have a nice guy or alpha male personality.
However, that doesn’t mean you have to completely change yourself. Instead, look at just being authentic. Don’t take yourself too seriously, make sure you are having fun, and be authentic.
Utility is another basic part of a high value man. Men should know how to take care of themselves properly, including cooking, cleaning, and driving. If they rely on someone else, like a parent or a partner, to take care of them, then they aren’t really a man, but a boy. So it is necessary to learn those fundamental life skills. If you want, you can also learn useful skills like how to repair basic damages around your home and car.
Looks aren’t everything. On top of having a good body and clothing, you also need to be attractive inside as well. One way to do this is to have ambitions. Many women find men attractive when men have passions.
There are all sorts of hobbies you can find to interest you. You can do them alone or with your friends. Some examples of hobbies to try are martial arts, sports, and arts.